Wanna get angry? Tell a college student you're bi.
Here's what they might say:
straight males -- "that's fuckin' hot. you should make out w/ her (points to drunk chick in the corner). we can tag the photos!"
straight females -- "ohh, yeah... thats, um, cool" (awkward silence, general clenching of thighs, pulling down of skirts -- oh god, why is SHE in our sorority?)... or hammered at a party -- "oh my god, you are so gorgeous. you know my boyfriend would love it if we..."
gay males -- "ohh, yeah... that's, um, cool" (pussy queer)
gay females -- "oh" (she's just GayUntilGraduation, impure lesbian, impressing dudes, trying to be hip, experimenting)
Gross generalizations, yes. Based on personal experiences, yes.
If you're like me and don't wholeheartedly self-identify with the term "bisexual," I think it's best not to use it. Get your kicks, but keep mum.
But that -- there! -- is it self-censorship?
Am I bowing out of a label because I can't handle the pressure of toting it? Cutting off ties with a community of like-minded individuals? Beginning my steady slide into adulthood heteroism?
Maybe I should wear "bi" like a badge. Maybe it's a password into a club. Registration to become a card-carrying member.
I don't think so. But I'm just a pussy queer.
Posted by lizg at March 4, 2006 2:12 AMlets make out!
Posted by: bess at March 4, 2006 2:38 AMa lot of people like to avoid labels because of the things they carry in any situation
you should try coming up with a new word instead!!
like two
"Yeah, I'm two"
that would sound a whole bunch more cool NEwayx
gender roles are silly
Posted by: erik! at March 4, 2006 12:21 PMthat is annnoying. maybe shoot the britney in the baby when these situations happen. like
to straight guy: actually i dont just make out with every girl i see. so yeah.
straight females- yeahh im not attracted to you, don't worry. scoffff!
gay males/females- are you a biophobe?
idk if thatd actually work, but it'd at least turn the awkwardness on them. beeeeees.
I hope not everyone you tell acts that imaturely about it. You being bi doesn't change who you are in my book, outside of where it should change it. I hope things go better for you in this field and others. Though as a straight guy, it is pretty hot.
Posted by: Rob at March 5, 2006 4:37 PMid say its not self censorship if you truly dont think "bisexual" defines your sexuality. Communities can cloud your perspective. You should get to decide who is in or out. I think the part in Kinsey where they say everyone's sexuality can be marked on a scale from 1(completely straight) to 9 (completely gay)is pretty interesting. in the same way its unlikely that someone can be completely straight or completely gay at all times, i would say it is hard to be bi at all times
Posted by: joel at March 6, 2006 3:44 PMit's not self censorship, you just dont want to relate yourself to a word thats been corrupted by teen movies and attention whore. :D
yeah, there should probably be a different term.
Posted by: tim maides at March 8, 2006 7:13 AMLiz, Bisexual was first used as a term to describe plants which have both male and female sex organs. So if anyone has a right to be distraught - it is them. It is just like the Native Americans. :) Be Happy.
Posted by: Kelly H at March 9, 2006 12:43 AM